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My Body My Choice My Voice

Life Lessons by Tinisha J.

Though many years have passed, I still remember the day my high school sweetheart broke my heart. I haven't felt anything like it since. My idea of getting over him was to party and hook up with different guys. Soon, I got pregnant by a guy that I didn’t love, nor want a relationship with. He accepted his responsibility and I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy, my Choice. We talked it over and decided to become a family. Instead of the relationship offering the stability I needed, I became insecure and depressed. Trying to make something out of nothing took its toll. We finally split and I was back to my old ways. I wanted to be in control of my feelings and the men I dated. To me sex was power. But I couldn’t deny the emptiness I felt.

Now, I'm discovering who I am. I want more for myself; I’ve learned a lot about self-respect--something I seriously lacked before. Life is full of lessons, and the most important one I’ve learned is to love myself so that I can give and receive love. I’ve learned that I make the choices about my life. Only I can do this!